Many people don't understand the concept of multiple working hypotheses. They don't know how to apply the FAITH model (separating Facts from Assumptions, Inferences, Theories, and Hypotheses).
And some people don't share the pursuit of clarity, charity and understanding.
When we think the purpose of a discussion is to convince the other person, we are promoting contention.
When the purpose of a discussion is to exchange perspectives, we are promoting harmony, pursuant to the FAITH model.
Helen Mirren once allegedly explained that some people simply aren't ready to listen:
Before you argue with someone, ask yourself if that person is even mature enough to grasp the concept of a different perspective. Because if not, there’s absolutely no point.
That’s the difference between a meaningful conversation and a pointless argument.
Talking to someone open to growth and understanding can be enlightening — even if you don’t agree.
But trying to reason with someone who refuses to see beyond their own convictions? It’s like talking to a brick wall. No amount of logic or truth will reach them — not because you’re wrong, but because they’re unwilling to see anything else.
Maturity isn't about winning arguments. It’s about recognizing when the argument just isn’t worth it. It’s choosing peace over proving a point to someone who’s already decided not to change their mind.
You don’t have to fight every battle. You don’t owe everyone an explanation.
Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is walk away — not because you have nothing to say, but because you know they’re not ready to listen. And that’s not your burden to carry.
